Domestic violence can happen to anyone.
Married couples. People who are living together or who are dating. Teens. College students. Newlyweds. So-called “Power Couples” blessed with wealth and fame. Men and women working to raise themselves out of poverty. LGBTQ partners. People with disabilities. Seniors. Anyone.
Domestic violence affects everyone. So we all need to understand what domestic violence is. Learn how to recognize the signs of DV happening in your own life, or in the lives of friends, family, neighbors, co-workers. Anyone you know.
Always remember: Domestic violence shows itself as a pattern of behavior in any relationship that is used to get or keep power and control over an intimate partner.
Abuse is physical, sexual, emotional, economic or psychological actions to influence another person. In an abusive relationship, one intimate partner uses physical, sexual, emotional or other violence to try Read More →
Yes, ALL immigrants in the U.S. do have the right to live life free from violence and abuse. Haven Hills has been honored to serve the community in the San Fernando Valley area of Southern California for over forty years. We have become experts on the special challenges that immigrants to the U.S. face. We want our English-speaking and Spanish-speaking communities to recognize that abusive partners have additional ways to exert power and control over their victims due to the victim’s immigration status. If you are an immigrant or refugee in an abusive relationship, you may face challenges that can make it feel difficult to reach out for help. Read the following checklist to find out if you are being manipulated because you are an immigrant:
Are you being isolated? Does your partner control what you do, who you see, who you talk to, where the money is spent? Make you feel bad, humiliated, and worthless? Is your intimate partner preventing you from learning English or communicating with friends, family or the many other people from your home country living right here in Southern California?
Does your partner threaten you with deportation? Is your intimate partner trying to control you by threatening to withdraw your application for legal status?
Has your partner taken possession of important documents that are rightfully yours? Has your abusive partner taken, hidden or destroyed legal documents or papers you need in this country such as passports, resident cards, health insurance or driver’s licenses?
Is your partner manipulating your path to U.S. citizenship or legal residency? Has your partner withdrawn or failed to file papers for your residency? Has your partner lied to you by threatening that you will lose your citizenship or residency if you report the physical or sexual violence to the police? Does your partner tell you that it is your fault he hurts you and says “if only you wouldn’t make him act this way,” he wouldn’t have to withdraw your immigration papers?
Has your partner caused you to lose employment? Has your intimate partner tried to get you fired from your job by Read More →
My voice is one that you may hear when you call the Haven Hills 24/7 Crisis Line. I joined up with Haven Hills back in 1981 when I was a grad student in Educational Psychology at Cal State Northridge. I volunteered to complete my field placement hours working with children at the Crisis Shelter and this turned out to be a life-changing experience for me.
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Domestic violence is a pattern of physical, sexual, psychological and/or economic assaultive and coercive behaviors against intimate partners. It does not have to be physical abuse.
Domestic violence and the impact on our communities is devastating and costly.
If you have witnessed, heard, or suspect someone you know is being abused, you can help by listening to her or him. Many victims feel they have no one to turn to, so simply being there for someone is an important first step because it breaks the loneliness and isolation, and offers hope. Help the victim recognize that abuse is not “normal,” and also not their fault. Tell the victim that you are concerned for her or his safety and want to help.
Find out about the counseling, housing, and other Services Haven Hills offers to victims of domestic violence and their children, and share this information. Learn the phone number of Haven Hills’ 24/7 CRISIS Line by heart—818.887.6589 and encourage the person you know to learn it too.